Stress

I have noticed there are a lot of people in this world that get stressed out. Stressed out a lot in fact.

To me, stress is something that is self-inflicted. If you have high expectations or high expectations are normally put on you then stress can occur.

See, the thing is, I don't stress about much. I would be remiss in saying I no longer stress about women any more, because I clearly do sometimes, but that's neither here nor there.

The main way to not get stressed out is to keep it in perspective. When I am at work, I concentrate on work and what is happening there, I don't worry about what people want from me or what they expect from me. I can only do my best, and that is usually far superior than what they expect.

Now I know that is not easy for everyone to deal with and I am not trying to gloat or anything. But it reminds me of a lesson from Star Trek.

*GEEK ALERT*

When a difficult situation happens to the Enterprise, Kirk would call to the engine room to get Scotty to get them out of there ASAP. Scotty would give estimates that were clearly larger than was necessary for him. So Scotty would somehow get things done significantly sooner than his estimation. And he comes out the hero.

Can you see where I am going?

If you let EVERYONE know what your absolute maximum potential and abilities are, then you are setting yourself up for failure and stress. They will come to expect the maximum you have all the time.

It is the same in life, and I have to keep remembering that when dealing with people.

I am a fucking awesome person but I can't let all of that show to everyone, otherwise they will expect me to be that way all the time and frankly I like to lay low once in a while.

That happened last week and talking about this reminded me of it.

*SIDE TRACK*

I was at craft night last Wednesday and I was in a "downtime" kind of mood. Well, it was perceived like I was feeling down or sad or something. I had to keep explaining that I was fine and nothing was wrong. In fact, nothing was wrong. It was that I had allowed more of myself to come out than I should.

So this leads to me tempering myself. Why I do it is twofold. One, most people can't handle it. And those that can are my friends. And the other is to allow me to "turn-off" myself and not be perceived as being sad or down or something.

Now that I think about it, maybe I should be on all the time. That way I can weed out the chaff and it also will allow me to know who my real friends are if they are concerned if I am "down".

Anyway, back to stress heh.

Get over yourself!

You can't control the unreasonable expectations of others. All you can do is your best or what is perceived as your best and call it good. No need to worry about anything. Unless you are in mortal danger or you are going to be immediately fired if you miss by even a little bit from schedule then you will be fine.

Did that help anyone?

Guess I am not that great at explaining how I do it.

Oh well. :)