Communication

(This is day 3 of Starcat and I's 30 day blog posting challenge! ...so far so good!)

Communication is sometimes an awkward event, with both parties trying to convey information, and more often trying to convince the other that they are "right" or at least "justified" in their reaction to what the other is saying. This can lead to one side pulling their energies back and letting the other go on a tirade, which quickly becomes a one-sided conversation. Another example is if both feel "right" and battle to overcome the other's defenses. Neither of these ways will be satisfying to either party in the long run. Either resentment or bruised egos will result.

However, there are other ways of communicating that allow each person to relate what they are feeling and thinking and not expecting the other to involve themselves emotionally in an uncomfortable way. If each person can remain calm and centered, even when conveying strong feelings, both parties will be uplifted by the conversation.

One of the challenges that I face is when someone with a strong personality needs to “vent” and expects me to be okay with that. Granted, most of the time I can remain centered and focused, but sometimes with such aggressive energy, I get defensive and pull back from the conversation. Ultimately, it is my choice and my energy that would bring about such a “confrontation,” and I am glad I have surrounded myself with a lot of calm, centered people.

Ideally, when both people in a conversation are grounded, it is each of our responsibilities to remain in our centered state regardless of the temperament or “control” the other may have. With practice, it is even possible to remain centered through the most toxic and verbally violent tirades, much to the chagrin of the one who wants to drop you down into their drama.

I hope with continued practice and patience, I am able to attract these ideal cases more often, and to successfully avoid any increased amount of drama. I know of several people who are having communication issues and I hope they can resolve them in a kind and gentle manner. I also have a friend who is having a challenging communication with me, mainly because I chose not to fall into the “dark” place that he’s coming from. By choosing to be centered and to feel calm, I was able to “withstand” a very strong verbal “attack.” Thankfully, I came away with hope for the other and I still wish him all the best.

Regardless of how you choose to communicate, any time that you find yourself in a challenging situation, know that your beliefs and assumptions play a large role in the encounter. Such a situation, in the future, need not arise at all, if you intend and expect harmony and harmonious interactions with those around you.

So remember, be yourself and try to remain in your center, or vortex as Abraham calls it. It’s the place where you find joyous, calm and happy thoughts. Good luck!